How Vowels Helped Me To Embrace Imperfection
“𝗜 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝘃𝗼𝗹𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁. 𝗨𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗹 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗶𝘀𝘁.”
I’m about to shake the foundations for some of you, but did you know that perfectionism is a symptom of low self-worth 😬? Perfectionism is all about fear, not excellence (that’s another post for a different day).
So how did I learn to embrace imperfection? By using my VOWELS. Vowels? Like AEIOU? Yup!
✅ A – Affirm Yourself: Be your own validation. Sometimes we look to others to validate our choices because we fear making the “wrong ones.” But what if there were never any wrong choices? What if all of our choices lead us to where you’re ultimately supposed to be? Get comfortable with trusting yourself! Start making decisions without “checking in” with others.
✅ E – Embrace your Flaws: We all have flaws and it’s important to not let them define us. They aren’t the only part of your being. When we learn to embrace them as an extension of who we are, we don’t spend time trying to “be different” in order to measure up.
✅ I – Invite Error: There is no shame in making mistakes. The important thing is that you learn and grow from them.
✅ O: Overcome by Surrendering: Perfectionism is fear based. Surrender is accepting where you are and how you are as is, all while knowing that you’re a work in progress.
✅ U – You are Unique, not Perfect: If we were all perfect, we’d be pretty boring. Your shortcomings are your uniqueness. There’s no room to imitate another when you understand that you’re good enough just the way you are.
And sometimes… ✅ Y – You Will Fall Short: There will be circumstances that don’t give you the outcome that you expected, there will be things you feel that you deserve that you never attain, and there will always be people who disapprove. When you take this on as a possibility it erases the fear of not being good enough.
𝘝𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘭 𝘔𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘗𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘮© 𝘣𝘺 𝘌𝘳𝘪𝘬𝘢 𝘛. 𝘒𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘬